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About Find Femmes

Find Femmes 40+ is a dating site aimed at feminine identified LGBTQ women, aka femmes/ lipstick lesbians who are 40+ years of age. We don’t think that age should be a barrier to finding love.

Whether you're looking for friendship or love; whether you’re a femme into femmes, or simply just a woman into femmes- this is a place where you can finally meet, seek and be found.

Where is “Find Femmes” available?

We're currently available in the USA and UK. You will only be able to message femmes within your own country.

Conquering long distance between countries is very difficult, so we hope you can find friendship/love nearby!

FAQ'S: What does ‘femme’ mean?

Whether you love your lipstick and Louboutin heels, or lipbalm and loafers; it’s up to you as to how you define and if you feel this is the right dating spot for you.

What if I’m not femme but I like femmes? You’re more than welcome to sign up to, the more the merrier! We know that not every femme is also into femmes, and we want to help as many people find love. Can I join if I’m just looking for friendship? Yes, certainly! There’s many of us out there who haven’t met many other femmes and we know how important it is to feel like you belong. What if I’m 40+ but want to date younger women? You’re more than welcome to sign up to where we have women of all ages.

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We are Whitney & Megan, Aka Wegan. We managed to find love online and hope to help you find the same!

We put our lives out there as a couple to fill the gap of lesbian role models and to show that you can be feminine anda a lesbian. We get a lot of questions from our followers asking how can they meet a femme? We never had an answer, until now. We hope that you can find your femme!

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Whitney Bacon & Megan Evans